My Departure

My husband and I share emotion when we share films. I should know that. The emotion we felt after we watched Cinema Paradiso prompted the life-changing conversation that led to our marriage.

Still, in nineteen years of marriage, I struggle to bring that emotion to the forefront in a way that we can communicate about what’s important to us. I analyze my conversations and his. I read self-help books on communication in marriage. We talk about communicating.

I departed from this usual pattern on a rare mid-week evening at home without our kids. I could have raced over the household stresses, searching for solutions and hoping to connect with him.

Instead, we watched the movie Departures.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtdENmR6jKw

The fragility of life, the tenderness of mourning, and the surety of eternal life surrounded the few words that we spoke. It wasn’t sentimentality as much as a connection about reality.

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1 Comment

  1. Liz
    Jun 16, 2010

    I will be watching this movie with my husband-this is right up our alley. Cinema Paradiso is one of my all time favorite movies too. I watched it in Italy when I was 19 and fell in love. I love the “reality” moments that bring my husband and I together. We don’t have those butterflies feelings anymore but what we have now is more like a big bear hug and I like that better.

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