Your Opinion: The Most Important Social Skills

Social (synonyms: companionable, convivial, gregarious, sociable) The central meaning of these adjectives is inclined to, marked by, or passed in friendly companionship with others.

My husband is an introvert, and I am an extrovert. My children line up in different ways around us. My teenage daughter, who is more like her dad, and I have a new opportunity to interact in social settings with her beyond our family, and it causes me to ask myself about sociality and personality. A friend confessed that she and her husband are both introverts, which surprised me because she initiates conversations and keeps them going with friends and strangers alike. But she said they worked really hard at being extroverts.

Neither being an introvert nor an extrovert is preferable. But we all need to interact in the communities we circulate. Social skills are the way we do that successfully.



  1. Ryan
    Jul 12, 2008

    You know, I almost voted for the self-confidence one too, but then I thought of all the great conversations I have had with under-confident friends and myself over the years, and realized that trait isn’t that important.

  2. Patricia Weber
    Jul 12, 2008

    Since studying this – introvert, extrovert – for several years I’ve learning that it’s more appropriate at times to think of the verb form: introverting and extroverting. We all do some of each at times. It’s just that we have a preference. One of the greatest human need is to be listened to and I think , as a hard wired introvert, that know how to listen and can use it as an unfair advantage.

    Patricia Weber
    Sales Accelerator Coach
    For Introverts, Shy and Reluctant

  3. Rachel Corbett
    Jul 12, 2008

    Interesting topic. I have always had a hard time with this. It takes me a long time to get really comfortable with people before I really feel like I am myself around them. My number one vote was for “showing interest in other people”. Do that and the rest will follow. If you’re interested in others, you’ll find thing to start conversations about, you’ll make eye contact and have open body lang. etc.

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