Peace With Ourselves

Try-It With-Me Tuesday, an interactive weekly time and place to foster connections that challenge and encourage the process to become a well-rounded person.

One of the five people that Eddie meets in heaven in the book we’re reading for the July Reading Challenge tells him, “You have peace when you make it with yourself.”

He disagrees with her. He feels agitation—even in heaven—and thinks it shouldn’t be that way. He begins a process to work through his emotions and comes to a point of understanding and forgives his father.

I believe I can find inner peace, but I tend to put a lot of effort into working through difficulties or agitated feelings until I come to a resolution. That process involves talking it out, writing it out, praying it out and thinking it out. Sometimes the process is maddening, and like Eddie I feel that making peace with myself offers less peace, at least in the short run.

I would love to discuss this question with anyone who is interested. What do you think this statement means, “You have peace when you make it with yourself.” How do you personally make peace with yourself?

Leave your thoughts in the comments below.

I finished the book, The Five People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom. The story and situations prompted as much thought as statements like this one did. I will write my post about it next Tuesday, July 29th and hope to discuss them with you.

If you want to read it, it’s a short book, and there is still time. If you want to write your own post, just link to my website, send me your link to me by going to this contact page and I will publish it. You may use the TIWMT image in your post, if you wish. Or, simply come back and comment on what you liked.


  1. Ryan
    Jul 22, 2008

    I think the statement could mean something about forgiving yourself too. And, in the general sense, we are the masters of our fate, we decide to be at peace or not. I like what the Book of Mormon prophet, Nephi says. “Yea, why should I give way to temptations, that the evil one have place in my heart to destroy my peace and afflict my soul? Why am I angry because of mine enemy?” (2 Nephi 4:27). It’s the classic lament of those who have let others control their attitude and get them down. Making peace with yourself is learning to control yourself, your thoughts and emotions. It’s not the easiest task, even for a guy like Nephi.

  2. Alison
    Jul 22, 2008

    For me, making peace with myself means allowing myself to let go of harbored negative emotions – guilt, sadness, anger, etc. – from past situations. It also means forgiving myself (and often others) from getting in those situations to begin with. And then taking what I learned from those situations and actively applying that knowledge to be a better person and handle things better in the present.

  3. Rebecca
    Jul 22, 2008

    I also thought of forgiveness when I read the sentence. Forgiving yourself and others. It is easier to forgive others when you know how to forgive yourself. Both types of forgiveness leave you with a clear conscience also.

    But you are right. When you are trying to make peace with yourself, such as forgiving yourself, you may be left with less peace at first. You really have to drag out things you might rather leave inside.

    Hmmm…I think that’s it for me. Dragging out those parts of you that are unlikeable (rather than just letting them sit ignored and festering), fixing them, and finally forgiving yourself. I think that’s when you can find inner peace.

  4. Sarah
    Jul 22, 2008

    Since I won’t have time to fit in reading the July Challenge, do you know what you are doing for August? I’ll get the book now and start reading it sooner. July got away from me.


  5. TJ
    Jul 22, 2008

    Thank you to all for your wonderful responses. This is the kind of thoughtful discussion I hoped this question would prompt.

    Thank you, Sarah, for your interest in participating next month.

    I am curious if there are others who desire to read another specific book togther next month to prompt continued conversation about specific ideas in it. I certainly am gaining from it and would like to know if this is something to continue.

    If so, I will choose a book and announce it as part of the post next Tuesday.

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